Anger Is Knowledge

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Being ticked off can sometimes be a sign of not feeling fulfilled in one area (or more) of your life, and it can show itself in the form of anger.

Here’s a recommendation. Follow your line of thinking when everything goes off the tracks. You encounter an experience, you get angry, and you are left with an empty feeling. That feeling is alerting you. Pay attention.

Pull it apart and figure out what you need. In other words, what’s missing? Because I’ve had this happen to me so many times, this I know for sure. Your intuition knows. Just listen to it.

If you need anything, just email me. I’m always here to help.

Break the Trance

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Here's a question I want you to think about: What makes your day difficult? In other words, on a very basic level, what keeps you from doing what you need to do?

I realize that every day is different and that each day comes with its share of difficulties, but I want you to focus on the difficulty (difficulties) that seem to run through most days.

As you answer this question, is there a pattern? Is it lack of time? No help from others? An overall sense of stress? An inability to stay on track? Money shortage?

Or, did you notice that there is no pattern? Meaning, you seem to always just end up at the close of another day thinking, "What the heck happened?" (When my days end that way, I feel like a hot mess.)

Pattern or no pattern, daily difficulties happen. And, it's your daily difficulties that can keep you stuck. You're stuck because you keep staring at the same problems over and over and over like you glare at a bright, shiny object.

I like to describe this as being 'transfixed'. And, while being transfixed can feel like you're moving in the right direction of overcoming the difficulty and moving on, the opposite is happening. The truth is, you're actually stuck.

And why are you stuck? Because when you're transfixed, everything else gets blocked out. You can't see answers. You can't see solutions. You can't hear someone's encouragement. You can't think anything else. You only see the difficulty.

Here's how to remedy being stuck:
1) Realize when you're in the trance
2) Break the trance by focusing elsewhere
3) Look for (another) solution

You're probably wondering how you do that? Well, the answer is so simple! For example, let's say you're at your desk — and in your mind — you're freaking out over how little time you have to finish your report.

It's then — in that moment — that you recognize that (1) You're transfixed on the stress of having little time. (2) You break the trance by telling yourself, "If I'm short time, me worrying about lack of time takes precious time from completing my project. (3) I will focus, now, back on finishing my project."

I know you're probably thinking, well that won't work. But, trust me, it works. Try it. The next time you're in the middle of your difficulty I recommend you realize it, break it, and apply a solution.

So, what do you do if you can't find (another) solution? Well, don't worry about that. At least you broke the trance and you don't feel stuck. And that's a great feeling right there.

If you need anything, just email me. I'm always here to help.

Be Carried Away

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'Drift time' is when you’re no longer focused on what you are doing. When you are in drift time, you check email, watch a video, or engage in any behavior that distracts you from completing projects.

Drift time is terrific when it is used properly. Everyone needs a break now and then. Be aware, though, of interruptions that suck up valuable time and keep you from finishing your projects. I think it’s all about balance. You know, some work, some play.

If you need anything, just email me. I’m always here to help.

Time to Redo

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Rules that ring true for you — and accurately represent your values — are worth keeping. Rules that no longer represent who you are — or no longer serve you — need to be questioned. Meaning. Ask yourself where the rules came from, and are they serving you any longer? If the answer is no, rewrite the rules.

If yo need anything, just email me. I’m always here to help.

Slow It Down

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There’s a definite art form to living your life to the fullest. You've got to be open but structured. Speak up but be a good listener. Go after something but stop if it's the wrong something. What I'm saying here is that you really have to live your life from a place of center.

Know what makes you tick. Know when you need a push. Back off when enough is enough. Don't let your feelings stop you if you need to keep going. If your feelings are helping you experience something you need, feel the feeling and response appropriately.

Living life like an art form isn't easy, though. You're busy driving, working, dealing with stress over money, or lack of time. And, health and energy dictate your output. In other words, it doesn't matter how much you want to do with your life, if you feel depleted of energy, it won't happen.

If you can't structure your life now, don't beat yourself up about it. Your life is asking much of you -- and all at the same time. But at some point, I need you to stop that runaway train. Sooner rather than later you'll need to chop up, break up, or squish up all the things keeping you from the life you're meant to live.

If you need anything just email me, I'm always here to help.

Go Look

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I want you to do something for me. I want you to go back and look at all your previous goal lists, New Moon intentions, prayers, astrological predictions, your journal, anything and everything you have that’s a record of something you asked for.

Now, did anything that you asked for happen?

If it did happen, congratulations. If it didn’t happen, ask again.

Just don’t stop believing that you can have what you want.

If you need anything, just email me. I’m always here to help.

This Makes Me Happy

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My favorite word of the day? Integrate.

As I work on different pieces — and different platforms — for a new project I’m currently working on, stuff either works together or it doesn’t.

When it doesn’t integrate, I hit a dead end. When it does integrate, I get to move forward.

But, I’m REALLY excited because the last three pieces did work together so I get to move forward. Woo hoo!!!

(Can you imagine this topic is something I’m excited about? As in, tell a total stranger while having coffee excited?)

If you need anything just email me. I’m always here to help.

It's Not You

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When you’re faced with a problem, it can make you feel bad about yourself — if, for some reason — you can’t figure it out. You might then think of yourself as stupid, incompetent, maybe worthless.

But, a problem needs to be identified for exactly what it is — a problem. And, the process of trying to solve a problem can be difficult.

And, sometimes, a problem has the power to stop you in your tracks. You know…avoid, distract, or divert.

That can leave you feeling really bad about yourself. Like there’s something wrong with you.

So, what can you do about it? Cut yourself some slack. Simply see it for what it is.

The problem is the problem. It's not you.

If you need anything, just email me. I’m always here to help.

Pump Up the Energy

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We’re often told that if you have a specific purpose that you care deeply about, it will give you tremendous energy and tremendous resources. This is true. But, it’s not true for everyone. And, it’s rarely true for me.

An example of when a purpose provides energy and resources is when you see someone in the news talking about ending childhood diseases. Perhaps their own child had suffered, and they’ve made it their life’s purpose to change the death rate for sick children.

An example (in my life) of when a purpose I care deeply about does not provide energy and resources is when I’m working on creating stuff. It could be the contents of an article, correcting a web page, or designing a new program for solopreneurs.

So, if you’re someone (like me) who runs out of energy and resources doing work that you’re passionate about, I found a hack to get over the feeling and move forward. The idea is to acknowledge what you’re feeling, feel it, then go back doing what you need to be doing to move forward.

(This hack works for most things, actually. For example, you need to exercise? Go ahead and feel lazy, then go walk. Don’t want to do laundry? Go ahead and feel unhappy about it, then go start a load of wash.)

If you need anything, just email me. I’m always here to help.