I park in the same parking area. I put my keys in the same basket. I brush my teeth before I take my shower. I love the feeling of knowing. But, something really interesting happened when I started noticing other people's knowing.
When I would finish an event, I would ask someone in the group how it went. The gal who hated her weight reported that she felt others thought she was lazy. The woman who felt older thought that she was looked at as old.
Are you following what I'm saying? What I'm saying is that often times you're filling in things you think others are thinking. As for those two women, no one in our group viewed them as lazy or old. (Group feedback described them as dynamic and charismatic.)
I know there are times you're right. There's no shortage of people who discriminate against people based off of their color, weight, sex, or age (to name a few). But, that's not what I'm focusing on. I'm focusing on you and how you think you know what others are thinking.
So, I want to offer up a solution
The next time you automatically fill in what you think someone else is thinking about you, become aware of it and say to yourself, "I'm not in their head — so stay in mine." Then, once you're back in your own head with your own thoughts, go back to what you were doing.
I can't tell you strongly enough how important it is to stop thinking you know what someone else is thinking. And, if you find out what someone really thinks about you, remember this: your opinion of you is what matters most.
If you need anything, just email me. I am always here to help. ⚅⚄