self-love

Don't Forget You

A journey that keeps you stuck where you’re at can be frustrating. Moving forward is key. But, with every minute of each day filled with activities that bring you no joy, your journey can end.

You must fight to find small bits of time in your day to do something that brings you joy. Meaning, do something just for you. Now you’re moving forward. 

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How to be Happy

When you are alone, do you feel good? Or, do you only feel good when someone tells you something good about you? Do you feel wanted? Or, do you only feel wanted when someone wants you?

What's my point? My point is that the #1 way to be truly happy is for you : to supply you : with self-love. A sustaining, ongoing flow of self-respect and self-worth. And, don't get this twisted. It's not that you don't want or need anyone. It's just that you know the truth.

The truth is that you are responsible for your own happiness. With -- or without -- someone (else). 

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An Internal Block

I realize not everyone lacks self-love, however, when I coach a client — and they feel stuck and unmotivated — sometimes there is something internal blocking them from moving forward. One possible reason I have found — for their struggle to move forward — is low self-love.

Individuals with low self-love tend to:
1   Criticize everything they do.

2   Never recognize anything good that they do.

3   Always feel what they do is not enough.

4   Think what they do is always less/worse than what others do.

5   Belittle who they are to make others look better. 

6   Will not take responsibility for their life. 

7   Feel guilty about everything for no reason. 

8   Place harsh judgement on who they are as a person.  

9   Say “I can’t” when trying something new.

10 Unable to speak up when they need to because they want to be liked.

Here's how to tackle this challenge:
First, realize that it's happening. Self-awareness is the path to change. Next, when it does happen, immediately say to yourself, "ERASE". Meaning, you consciously interrupt your thought. Next, I recommend you increase your self-love by doing the exact opposite of everything on this list.

I realize it's easier said than done, but, if you can do that, your life will move forward and positive change can happen.

If you need anything, just email me. I'm always here to help.

2 Self's to Consider

This post was written for people who (always) help others before they (ever) help themselves. That can feel right — and sometimes it is. But, when you chronically focus your time and attention on others, you cut off love and respect for yourself.

Overtime, this will become a problem. Think about it. It takes self-love and self-respect to grow, to pursue one's dreams, to stand up for what's right. And, the best outcome of self-care, is that the very people you are trying to take care of, now respect you, because you respect yourself.

Simply put, self-care is about self-respect.

Take time for yourself when needed. Say no, when the answer needs to be no. Don't feel guilty for believing in yourself. Stay strong when someone pressures you to go against what you believe in.

In order for you to live your best life, you must believe that you are worthy of the very thing you give to everyone else. And, whether you like it or not, you're the only person that can do that for you.

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Push Yourself

Today I'm pushing you. I'm pushing you to get excited. I want you to get excited about something. Anything. The point it, get excited! Need some examples? 

Instead of driving straight home from work, stop for 10 minutes at the park and listen to a couple great songs on the radio. Instead of buying exactly what's on your grocery list, throw in your cart that one item you only treat yourself to at the holidays. Instead of starting dinner as soon as you get home, sit down for 10 minutes and enjoy a mug of delicious sweet tea.

When you are excited about something, it raises your energy and your motivation. It's kind of the same thing as when you're in a hurry to pick up the front room because your best friend just called and he's coming over in 20 minutes. (Boy, you can pick up stuff fast. Right?) That's because you're excited!

See, getting excited about your life is really what you could say is the same thing as passion. It's you deciding that you're going to see you — and your life — as valuable and important. In other words, your life matters.

Deciding to get excited about 'you' is easy when you have a truck full of self-love. In other words, you believe YOU matter. But, when you lack self-love, you tend to dismiss or ignore what you need to be happy and excited about your life.

You'll do for others more than you'll for yourself. You'll buy your sister her favorite perfume and not get yourself some. You'll sit and listen to someone blab negative crap for one hour straight and not interrupt because you want to be nice. You'll immediately start dinner on an evening you're really upset and could use 15 minutes to yourself to sort stuff out. 

Bottom line: Don't leave yourself out of your own life. Push yourself to get excited about something. Really value who you are and what you need. Show the universe that you do have self-love. So, go make this happen!

If you need anything, just email me. I'm always here to help. ⚅⚄