self-esteem

You Can Change Your Life

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Not everyone knows this, but, I am a Certified Professional Coach and Certified Life Coach.

People find out about me either when I speak at an event, or they see my offer for free coaching on my website. 

You would be shocked if you heard what I hear (I never disclose that information). People express to me their pain, their ongoing struggles, and a feeling of not measuring up. Yes they have good jobs, yes they are active in their community, but somewhere something's wrong for them.

What many people don't realize is that unless you study why you're the way you are and why you do the things you do, you can end up working against yourself. And, life is difficult enough as it is. So, it's really important that you have your own self in your corner.

Some examples
You might be very shy and avoid people, but desire a close, intimate relationship. 
You might want to run a company, but feel dumb and work at a job below your skill level.
You might feel weird because even though you're an adult, inside you feel like a scared child.

Sorting all this out can be a challenge. Especially if it's you and you're in the middle of it all. You know what you want, but you feel stuck. And, being stuck can be symptomatic of a bunch of reasons (too many to list here). Self-esteem, however, seems to be one of the biggest reasons.

Where to start
The foundation of who you are is built from your self-esteem. If you like yourself, or don't like yourself matters. Not liking yourself affects your personal relationships, how you take care of yourself, what type of job you work at, and how much financial prosperity you experience.

My top recommendation
Brian Tracy has the best resource to help raise self-esteem. In fact, he believes that your self-esteem determines your life. His resource is called The Psychology of Achievement. Long story shortI recommend you get the 'original version', and not the 'new version'It's sold everywhere, so just look for the best price. I believe it's also at your library. (Brian did endorse my book, but I don't receive any compensation for my recommendation.) 

Because I care about your personal growth, my 30-minute free coaching offer is there for you. Just go to www.sandrasmith.com to learn more. If 1-1 coaching isn't for you, try Brian's resource. But whatever you do, get going on living the life of your dreams. 

If you need anything, just email me. I'm always here to help. ⚅⚄

Think for Yourself

I park in the same parking area. I put my keys in the same basket. I brush my teeth before I take my shower. I love the feeling of knowing. But, something really interesting happened when I started noticing other people's knowing.

When I would finish an event, I would ask someone in the group how it went. The gal who hated her weight reported that she felt others thought she was lazy. The woman who felt older thought that she was looked at as old.

Are you following what I'm saying? What I'm saying is that often times you're filling in things you think others are thinking. As for those two women, no one in our group viewed them as lazy or old. (Group feedback described them as dynamic and charismatic.)

I know there are times you're right. There's no shortage of people who discriminate against people based off of their color, weight, sex, or age (to name a few). But, that's not what I'm focusing on. I'm focusing on you and how you think you know what others are thinking.

So, I want to offer up a solution
The next time you automatically fill in what you think someone else is thinking about you, become aware of it and say to yourself, "I'm not in their head — so stay in mine." Then, once you're back in your own head with your own thoughts, go back to what you were doing.

I can't tell you strongly enough how important it is to stop thinking you know what someone else is thinking. And, if you find out what someone really thinks about you, remember this: your opinion of you is what matters most. 

If you need anything, just email me. I am always here to help. ⚅⚄