personal growth

Feeling Uncomfortable


Do and repeat. Do and repeat. Do and repeat. That system works. What about the opposite? Change what you are doing. Turn off the automatic pilot switch. Maintain center, but move in different directions. Each time your new movements make you feel uncomfortable, recognize it for what it is — Personal Growth!

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3 Truths About Your Personal Growth

Personal growth is when you know you have a fire deep inside of you. And, like it or not, it must be acknowledged, encouraged, and allowed to burn strong with your greatness. If that sounds grandiose, it really isn't.

3 Truths About Your Personal Growth
Truth #1: You do have a fire inside you.
Truth #2: Your fire is unique to only you.
Truth #3: Your are responsible for it's heat.

Why You're Not On Fire
Working long hours, stress, and financial insecurity dampens your fire. Being focused on everything you've got to do leaves you with no time to grow.

3 Steps to Get HOT
You're probably wondering how to keep your schedule like it is AND get your fire burning, right? I know. I thought the same thing! But, there is a way to light that first flicker of heat.

Step 1: Stop doing one thing you no longer want/need to do. Example? Always being the one volunteer that always bakes. Let someone else do it.

Step 2: Insist on speaking more words that express the true you. You have to begin combining what you're thinking with what you saying and expressing those feelings. (Be sure to do begin this step with caution by speaking up at the right time to the right person.)

Step 3: Refuse to discount yourself. I mean this verbally, mentally, physically, and spiritually. Here's a verbal example: "I'll never be anything to anyone".

Bottom Line
See your personal growth as something you want (and will) work on. You have a fire inside of you. Find it, encourage it, and live it.

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Your True Essence

Your outer is a reflection of you inner. And, it's your thoughts that have brought you to your life as it is today. That's because your actions always mirror your thoughts. For example, if you lack self-confidence (a thought), you will back away from a better position at work (an action).

Take a close look at where you're putting your time and energy. When you do that, you'll be able to understand what you've been thinking. In fact, your actions (behavior) is an ongoing revealing of yourself. And remember, what you do tells those around you who and what you are.

I was coaching a client of mine last week on this very thing. He was going home every night upset, confused, and unable to figure out why his boss wasn't appreciating his work ethic. It seems like the harder he worked, the less his manager appreciated him.

We worked on his issue and I reminded him to never forget who and what he is. He is a man of integrity. He does deserve to be appreciated. However, right now at his job, his boss comes up short as a manager who doesn't value his star employees. 

To understand that is empowering. It stops the self-questioning that sounds like, "What am I doing wrong?" Or maybe, "Why does my manager never support me?" I'm not suggesting that a person not take responsibility, but rather I am suggesting that you remember that you have choices.

You can continue feeling underappreciated and go home upset every night. You can address the situation with the manager. Or, you can accept what's happening by controlling your thinking when it happens. In other words, stop letting that situation push your emotional button.

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