emotional strength

Drop the Drama

It takes logic to make a decision, deal with difficult people, and handle your emotions. In life, consider an 80% logical, 20% emotional usage ratio. For example, when someone upsets you, feel what you feel, then use your logic to handle the problem.

It's not so easy to do, but, with awareness and practice, you can develop the habit of not allowing emotional stuff to become an obstacle. Trust me, it's so much easier to move forward without them. 

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It Doesn't Taste Right

How many times are you absolutely sure you know what someone is thinking? You thinking you know what someone is thinking can be a big problem for one great big reason: You're probably wrong in what you're thinking.

I'm sure this isn't a new concept for you, but, I do think it's worth focusing on today. 

Just imagine how many memories you have stored in your beautiful brain! Every time something happens to you -- good or bad -- the memory get stored. And, each person seems to have a preference for certain types of memories because their memories must align with their self-image.

An example of this is if your memory is that you're not smart, when you do something smart you chalk it up to a fluke. If your self-image is that you're not quite good looking enough, when you're paid a complement, your thinking is, "Nope. He's wrong. I'm not good looking."

How to Turn This Around
Becoming aware of what you're thinking is the first step to turning this around. In the case of not being good looking enough, your turn around would be (you think then say this to yourself), "In his eyes, I'm attractive. I can't change that. That's what HE thinks."

Do you see my point? My point is that you must stop replacing what other's think with what you think.

Don't Let Your Thoughts Limit You
Be sure and check yourself when it comes to self-awareness. Sometimes you can talk about yourself -- and think something about yourself -- that is totally inaccurate. For example, you think you're a bad cook just because you can't nail a good lasagna. 

Lasagna is just one dish. Does that mean that you can't cook? No. It only means you need to work on your lasagna recipe. Once you make your mind up that you can cook, that you want your lasagna to taste better, you can do it. 

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Your True Essence

Your outer is a reflection of you inner. And, it's your thoughts that have brought you to your life as it is today. That's because your actions always mirror your thoughts. For example, if you lack self-confidence (a thought), you will back away from a better position at work (an action).

Take a close look at where you're putting your time and energy. When you do that, you'll be able to understand what you've been thinking. In fact, your actions (behavior) is an ongoing revealing of yourself. And remember, what you do tells those around you who and what you are.

I was coaching a client of mine last week on this very thing. He was going home every night upset, confused, and unable to figure out why his boss wasn't appreciating his work ethic. It seems like the harder he worked, the less his manager appreciated him.

We worked on his issue and I reminded him to never forget who and what he is. He is a man of integrity. He does deserve to be appreciated. However, right now at his job, his boss comes up short as a manager who doesn't value his star employees. 

To understand that is empowering. It stops the self-questioning that sounds like, "What am I doing wrong?" Or maybe, "Why does my manager never support me?" I'm not suggesting that a person not take responsibility, but rather I am suggesting that you remember that you have choices.

You can continue feeling underappreciated and go home upset every night. You can address the situation with the manager. Or, you can accept what's happening by controlling your thinking when it happens. In other words, stop letting that situation push your emotional button.

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Power From Within

When you know exactly what you want and have the emotional strength to go after it, your mind and heart work together as you give your plan enough time to come into being. The combination of mind and emotions is powerful because it creates the experience of how your life unfolds.

(You may have noticed that my blog post didn't go out last Friday. That's because we were making changes to our website so we were offline. It's all updated, and would absolutely love it if you'd take a second and check it out. Just go to www.sandrasmith.com.)

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