A Weird Week

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I had a really weird week. One minute I’m on fire with ideas, the next minute I’m calling all my ideas stupid. What’s really weird, though, is that I didn’t end up one : step : forward on any of my ideas. That matters to me because moving forward (and growing) is what I’m about.

Something — else — interesting happened this week I want to share with you. I uncovered “why” I experienced my fluctuating ‘on fire with ideas’ to ‘my ideas are stupid’ roller coaster ride.

I realize that while all that was going on, I became totally exhausted. And, in my state of exhaustion, I just stopped thinking.

It was in my “non-thinking” time I became aware of something about myself that was causing all the havoc. Turns out, it was a big, huge, incongruent belief.

How I tackled this, and — what ultimately got me through the process — was that I stayed in alignment with my values.

How about you? Are you looking for an answer to something you’re doing that’s keeping you stuck? If yes, you might consider looking into any hidden beliefs, intentions, or behaviors that don’t align with your values.

According to Dr. Murray, here are three things he thinks are critical when it comes to being congruent (the stuff in parenthesis are my summary words):

  1. Know what makes you tick (these are your values).

  2. Set daily goals (this is for focus and commitment).

  3. Be mindful (be aware of what is going on at the present moment).

That’s it. Hope that helps. And, remember, if I can help you find what you need, to live the life you love, just email me. I’m always here to help.

Don't Ask

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If you follow my blog, you know that I sometimes share with you conversations I have with complete strangers while flying for work. Well, I’ve got a new one for you.

This woman (I’ll name Trish) was really interesting. She was full of energy, but tired. Smart, but talked in circles. Kind, but only talked about her troubles. She seems stressed, uneasy, and depleted.

She voiced her concern about lack of money, lack of time, and too much to do. She was successful, but felt like a failure. Just hearing her question her every move was exhausting.

The only time she actually stopped talking about all her issues was when our flight attendant served us snacks and a drink.

As she’s spilling her drink down the front of her top, and trying to eat her snack quickly, she stopped and asked me, “I’m curious. What do you think I’m not dealing with?”

First of all, that was such an awesome question. I mean, honestly, how many people choose to look at an issue that way?

I replied, “You know what, I feel bad for what you’re going through, but, I don’t think my opinion really matters.” She said, “I agree, your opinion doesn’t really matter, but can you tell me anyway?”

I paused a minute, looked at her, then said slowly, “You’re in need of control.”

She turned her head to look the other way, and never said another word to me for the rest of our trip.

If you need anything, just email me. I’m always here to help.

Anger Alert

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Being ticked off can sometimes come from not being fulfilled. Can you recognize this for what it is? Anger. Follow your line of thinking when everything goes off the tracks. You encounter an experience, you get angry, and you are left with an empty feeling.

That feeling is alerting you. Pay attention. Pull it apart and figure out how to heal from it and bring into your life whatever it is that you feel is missing. Your intuition knows. Just listen to it.

If you need anything, just email me. I’m always here to help.