As I work with coaching clients, I see a recurring theme regarding problem solving, so I thought I would see if you're experiencing the same thing. (And, remember, problem solving is important because it gets you what you want, and moves you away from what you don't want.)
Caution: If you find my advice too simple -- and you're rolling you eyes because it's too simple -- beware! Sometimes, the most obvious answers are the hardest to see and implement, but, the most important for you to do, to succeed.
Here's the advice:
1) Train yourself to not talk about what's wrong.
2) Retrain yourself to talk about helpful solutions.
In other words, it's about seeing beyond what's happening in the moment. I'm sure you've heard this advice before, but, my question to you is, are you doing it?
If you need anything, just email me. I'm always here to help.