Your outer is a reflection of you inner. And, it's your thoughts that have brought you to your life as it is today. That's because your actions always mirror your thoughts. For example, if you lack self-confidence (a thought), you will back away from a better position at work (an action).
Take a close look at where you're putting your time and energy. When you do that, you'll be able to understand what you've been thinking. In fact, your actions (behavior) is an ongoing revealing of yourself. And remember, what you do tells those around you who and what you are.
I was coaching a client of mine last week on this very thing. He was going home every night upset, confused, and unable to figure out why his boss wasn't appreciating his work ethic. It seems like the harder he worked, the less his manager appreciated him.
We worked on his issue and I reminded him to never forget who and what he is. He is a man of integrity. He does deserve to be appreciated. However, right now at his job, his boss comes up short as a manager who doesn't value his star employees.
To understand that is empowering. It stops the self-questioning that sounds like, "What am I doing wrong?" Or maybe, "Why does my manager never support me?" I'm not suggesting that a person not take responsibility, but rather I am suggesting that you remember that you have choices.
You can continue feeling underappreciated and go home upset every night. You can address the situation with the manager. Or, you can accept what's happening by controlling your thinking when it happens. In other words, stop letting that situation push your emotional button.
If you need anything, just email me. I'm always here to help. ⚅⚄