Be Interested

I mentioned in my last blog post that I was invited to a Christmas party. I did go, and it was fun. There was a singer/songwriter who performed live. A full dinner with ham, potatoes, green beans, and dessert.

But, for me, I was excited to able to meet a bunch of new people. 

It's my personal observation that people tend to belong to one of two groups. One group does most of the talking, and one group does most of the listening. I realize that's a huge generalization, but you get what I'm saying.

My natural way is to talk. I love to ask questions, think out loud, and repeat what I just heard. I tend to fit into the 'talking' group. For me personally, that's not the best approach for me to get to know new people.  

Since I wanted to do my night differently, on my long drive to the party (about two hours), I decided I wanted to do less talking, and be a better listener.  

I showed up and shut up. When I met someone new, I asked their name, and I could remember it (because I was really paying attention). I discovered who belonged to a wine club, who suffered a concussion from an accident, and who was going skiing the next day.

When the party was over, I found out (from the hostess) that people found me interesting. Awesome, right? But hang on, I believe they felt I was interesting because I was genuinely interested in them. 

It's like I love to say when I talk about charisma. Charisma is really how people feel about themselves in your presence.

So remember. You have the power to really listen, understand, and create a positive, new relationship with anyone at anytime. It's your relationships that bring joy to your life.

If you need anything, just email me. I'm always here to help. ⚅⚄